The Power of Will—and What Comes Next......

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Introduction: A Spark of Willpower

Thirty-five + years ago, I made a decision that changed my life in a matter of minutes: I quit smoking in minutes, end of the story. No patches, no gradual tapering—just a firm resolve to stop. It wasn’t easy, but that moment of willpower felt like a superpower. Similarly, for years, I’ve woken up at 3 a.m. to start my day, not because it’s fun, but because I decided it’s who I am. These aren’t just anecdotes; they’re evidence of a trait I’ve come to see as essential: willpower.

Life is a whirlwind of changes, uncertainties, and adversities. Willpower is often the rudder that helps us steer through the storm—whether it’s changing course, staying grounded, or making tough, practical decisions. But is willpower the ultimate key to a complete life, or is there more to the story? This question hit me this morning while reading the Economist’s latest Banyan column, which described how Indian TV channels have been whipping viewers into a frenzy over recent military escalations. As someone who hasn’t watched TV—not even news, sports, or live broadcasts—for 12 years, I felt a quiet pride in my ability to opt out. It resonated with my sense of willpower. Yet, I’ve also been hearing a counterargument: forming habits, not relying on willpower, is the real secret to staying on course. So, let’s dive deep into willpower—its strengths, its limits, and what else we need to live intentionally.

The Case for Willpower: A Force of Transformation

Willpower is the ability to make conscious decisions and stick to them, even when it’s hard. It’s the mental muscle that powers us through moments of temptation, fear, or inertia. Psychologists like Roy Baumeister describe it as a finite resource, akin to energy in a battery, which we can deplete but also strengthen with practice. For me, willpower has been a game-changer in several ways:

• Overcoming Adversity: Quitting smoking 35 years (1989) ago wasn’t just about saying no to a cigarette; it was about reclaiming control over my health and future. (I wonder If Lalitha would have said yes, a year later if I was a smoker !!) That single act of will rippled into other areas of my life, proving I could tackle big challenges.

• Navigating Uncertainty: Life’s unpredictability demands quick, decisive action. Whether it’s choosing to avoid the sensationalism of TV news or sticking to a 3 a.m. wake-up routine, willpower helps me align my actions with my values.

• Building Identity: Willpower shapes who we are. My decision to ditch TV for 12 years wasn’t just about avoiding noise; it was a deliberate choice to prioritize clarity and focus. Each act of will reinforces the person I want to be.

The Economist’s Banyan column highlighted how Indian TV channels have been sensationalizing military escalations, pulling viewers into a cycle of emotional manipulation. Resisting that pull takes willpower—a conscious choice to step away from the “jolly ride” of sensationalism and seek truth elsewhere (like reading the Economist instead! - or whatever!! ). In a world designed to hijack our attention, willpower is a shield, letting us choose what deserves our focus.

The Limits of Willpower: When It’s Not Enough

But willpower isn’t a magic bullet. Relying on it alone can be like trying to sprint a marathon. Research, like Baumeister’s work on ego depletion, shows that willpower wanes under stress, fatigue, or decision overload. If I had to summon the same grit every day to avoid smoking or wake up at 3 a.m., I’d burn out. This is where the critics of willpower have a point: it’s not always sustainable.

I’ve noticed this in my own life. While quitting smoking was a dramatic act of will, staying smoke-free for decades wasn’t about white-knuckling it every day. It became second nature—a new normal. Similarly, my TV-free lifestyle isn’t a daily battle; it’s just how I live now. This shift from willpower to automaticity raises a question: if willpower gets us started, what keeps us going?

Habits: The Unsung Heroes of Consistency

Enter habits—the quiet, powerful force that takes over when willpower fades. Habits are behaviors we perform automatically, with minimal conscious effort. It is the interesection of Knowledge, Desire, Skills.  As Charles Duhigg explains in The Power of Habit, habits follow a loop: cue, routine, reward. Over time, these loops become wired into our brains, making actions feel effortless. I was struck by this idea when I heard psychologist Wendy Wood on a podcast a few years back, discussing her book Good Habits, Bad Habits. Wood argues that willpower is overrated because it’s effortful and unreliable, especially under stress. Instead, she says, habits drive about 40% of our daily actions. By shaping our environment—like keeping cigarettes out of reach or curating a newsstand instead of a TV—we make good behaviors automatic. My smoking cessation and TV-free life are perfect examples: what started as willful acts became habits, wired into my identity through years of repetition.

For example, my 3 a.m. wake-up started as a willful act, but now it’s a habit. The cue (my mental alarm like Jack Reacher's), routine (getting out of bed after thanksgiving prayer to be alive), and reward (a quiet, productive morning until 5am) are so ingrained that I rarely need to “decide” to do it. Similarly, avoiding TV isn’t a daily struggle; it’s a lifestyle shaped by years of consistent choices. Habits are like autopilot, keeping us on course without draining our mental battery.

The debate about willpower versus habits isn’t really a contest—both are essential, but they serve different roles:

• Willpower is the spark that ignites change, like deciding to quit smoking or skip TV news.

• Habits are the engine that sustains change, turning one-time decisions into second nature.

To build habits that stick, research like Wood’s suggests a few strategies:

• Start Small: James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, recommends tiny changes, like reading one page a day, to build momentum.

• Stack Habits: Pair a new habit with an existing one. For instance, I meditate right after my 3 a.m. black coffee (with Cinamon sprinkled), leveraging the morning routine as a cue. 90 Minutes flies..!! (Flow as they call!). Same is with my 20,000+ steps a day, thanks to 10s of American / British Podcasts.!! (Indian??? ahhaaaaaa Sorry, No way!). 

• Focus on Identity: Instead of aiming to “exercise more,” adopt the identity of “someone who moves daily.” My TV-free life works because I see myself as someone who values clarity over noise.

Willpower and Habits in Harmony

The interplay between willpower and habits is where the magic happens. Willpower gets you through the door; habits keep you in the room. My smoking cessation began with a burst of will, but it was the habit of living smoke-free that made it permanent. My TV-free streak started with a conscious rejection of sensationalism, but it’s the habit of seeking out thoughtful sources (like the Economist, WSJ, FT, Breitbart) that keeps me grounded.

This synergy is critical because life isn’t static. New challenges—like the media frenzy described in the Banyan column—require fresh acts of willpower to resist or adapt. But once you’ve made a choice, habits can lock it in. For instance, if you decide to avoid sensational news, you might use willpower to mute TV channels initially, but over time, curating a habit of reading reliable sources becomes second nature.

Is Willpower Overrated?

So, is willpower a positive trait or not a big deal? It’s both. Willpower is a vital tool for initiating change and navigating life’s uncertainties, as my own experiences show. Without it, I wouldn’t have quit smoking, built a 3 a.m. routine, or resisted the pull of TV for 12 years. It’s a cornerstone of personal growth and resilience.

But it’s not the whole story. Over-relying on willpower is like expecting a single muscle to carry you through life—it’ll tire out. Habits, systems, and identity-based thinking are what make change sustainable. Wendy Wood’s research drives this home: by designing our environments and routines, we reduce the need for willpower. The recent chatter I’ve heard about habits being more critical than willpower isn’t wrong; it’s just half the equation. Willpower and habits are partners, not rivals.

Conclusion: Crafting a Life of Intention

As I reflect on my journey—I see willpower as the spark that lit the fire and habits as the fuel that keeps it burning. For anyone looking to navigate change or build a meaningful life, my advice is simple: lean on willpower to start, but don’t stop there. Build habits that make your choices second nature. See yourself as the person you want to be, whether it’s someone who lives smoke-free, wakes up early, or seeks truth over noise. Together, willpower and habits don’t just help you stay on course—they help you become the person you’re meant to be.

What’s your story of willpower or habits? I’d love to hear how you’ve navigated life’s changes. For me, it’s an ongoing journey—one I’m proud to share through this blog.

Karthik

16/5/25 9am. 

The Secret to a Long, Healthy Life: Simple Steps to Longevity..

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Have you ever wondered what it takes to live a long, vibrant life? We often think it’s all about genes or fate, but here’s the truth: it’s the small, everyday choices we make that shape our destiny. I recently heard a podcast episode, about a 98-year-old woman who’s outliving her family, not because of luck, but because of her disciplined lifestyle. Her parents passed away in their 60s, her son in his 50s, yet she’s still going strong. Her secret? A set of simple, repeatable habits: Eat well, move daily, sleep soundly, and keep your mind at peace. Inspired by her story and backed by science, let’s dive into the steps to longevity that we can all adopt, right here in India, to live healthier and longer.

1. Eat on Time, Eat with Purpose

The lady in the story swears by eating her meals on a fixed schedule, often sticking to a simple, repetitive menu. In India, we’re blessed with a rich food culture—think dal, sabzi, roti, and rice. But the key is consistency and quality. Eating at the same time every day regulates your body’s internal clock, improves digestion, and keeps your metabolism humming.

• What to do: Plan your meals like you plan your day. Have breakfast by 9 AM, lunch by 1 PM, and dinner by 7 PM. Keep it light at night—maybe a bowl of khichdi or a veggie soup.

• Avoid ultra-processed foods: Say no to packaged snacks, sugary drinks, and instant noodles. These are loaded with preservatives and bad fats that harm your heart and gut. Instead, reach for fresh fruits, homemade curd, or a handful of roasted chana. Recently, Lalitha made "Paneer" (Cottage Cheese) at home. Boy it was delicious(even raw) with pepper sprinkled on top. 

• Indian twist: Incorporate traditional superfoods like turmeric, amla, or millets (ragi, jowar). A glass of haldi doodh before bed or a ragi dosa for breakfast can work wonders.

Science backs this up: Studies show that time-restricted eating and avoiding processed foods reduce the risk of diabetes and heart disease, which are major concerns in India.

2. Move Your Body, Keep the Engine Running

The 98-year-old walks or moves for at least 30 minutes a day. It’s not about hitting the gym or running marathons—it’s about staying active. In India, where many of us lead busy lives, squeezing in movement can feel tough, but it’s non-negotiable for longevity.

• What to do: Walk briskly in your colony park, climb stairs, or do a quick yoga session at home. Surya Namaskar is a fantastic full-body workout that takes just 15 minutes.

• For the busy bees: If you’re stuck at a desk, take a 5-minute walk every hour. Even sweeping the floor or gardening counts! 

• Indian context: Join a local laughter club or dance to some Bollywood tunes. It’s fun, burns calories, and lifts your mood.

Research shows that 30 minutes of moderate activity daily lowers the risk of obesity, hypertension, and even depression. It keeps your joints flexible and your heart happy.

3. Sleep Like a Baby, Every Night

Seven hours of uninterrupted sleep, with no screens in the room—that’s the lady’s rule. In our fast-paced Indian households, sleep often takes a backseat to late-night Netflix or scrolling through Instagram. But sleep is when your body repairs itself, from your brain to your muscles.

• What to do: Set a bedtime routine. Finish dinner by 7 PM, switch off screens by 8 PM, and aim to sleep by 10 PM. Keep your bedroom cool, dark and quiet. My routine- no screen after 6pm and Dinner at 6pm. Even Mobile phone is silent. Dear/ near people have Lalitha's #.  ( I wake up 3am! so no compromise). 

• Indian hack: Sip a cup of warm milk with a pinch of nutmeg to relax. Or try a quick meditation session—focus on your breath for 5 minutes at a minimum. 

• Why it matters: Poor sleep is linked to stress, weight gain, and even Alzheimer’s. A good night’s rest boosts immunity and keeps you sharp. Good sleep also cleans up brain and helps let go past thoughts. 

4. Clear Your Mind, Let Go of Worry

The old lady's mantra is to keep her mind unclogged and not sweat the small stuff. In India, where family pressures, work stress, and societal expectations can weigh us down, mental peace is a game-changer for longevity.

• What to do: Practice mindfulness. Spend 10 minutes daily journaling your thoughts or simply sitting in silence. If you’re spiritual, chant a mantra or read a few verses. My Apple watch help me with this at 3am for a good 15 min (My Mood, Reflection and Breathing). I do my journal at 730pm, sitting in my bed. 

• Let go: You can’t control everything—traffic, your boss’s mood, or your neighbor’s loud music. Focus on what’s in your hands and let the rest slide. 

• Indian wisdom: Our culture teaches us “detachment” (vairagya). Apply it to stress—don’t let it stick to you like masala on a tawa.

Studies show that chronic stress raises cortisol levels, which can damage your heart and brain. A calm mind is a long-living mind.

5. Stay Connected, Build Your Tribe

Here’s an extra step the woman didn’t mention, but it’s crucial: social connections. India, we thrive on community—our families, neighbors, and chai-time chats. Loneliness is a silent killer, and staying connected keeps you young at heart.

• What to do: Call up an old friend, visit your grandparents, or join a local hobby group. Even a quick chat with your sabziwala counts! (Social Wealth as Sahil Bloom calls it in his wonderful book, 5 types of Wealth). 

• Indian vibe: Host a small get-together for Diwali etc. Share stories, laugh, and bond over homemade laddoos or biryani.

• Science says: Strong social ties reduce the risk of depression and dementia. They also make you happier, which is half the battle won.

6. Stay Curious, Keep Learning

Another bonus step: never stop learning. Whether it’s picking up a new skill, reading a book, or trying a new recipe, keeping your brain active is key to longevity. In India, where we value knowledge, this is a habit we can all embrace.

• What to do: Learn to play a tabla, try a new pickle recipe, or watch a documentary on YouTube. Even solving a daily crossword keeps your brain sharp.

• Indian context: Dive into our rich heritage—read about Ayurveda / Philosophy, learn a few Sanskrit shlokas, or explore regional folk tales. Take an online courses and complete at your own pace. 

• Why it works: Mental stimulation strengthens neural connections, lowering the risk of cognitive decline.

The Bottom Line: Small Steps, Big Results

The 98-year-old lady’s story teaches us that longevity isn’t about grand gestures or expensive supplements. It’s about mastering the basics: eating right, moving daily, sleeping well, staying calm, connecting with others, and keeping your mind active. These are things we can all do, whether you’re in a bustling Mumbai flat or a quiet village in Karnataka.

In India, we often say, “Jaisa khao ann, waisa hove mann” (As is the food you eat, so is your mind). Let’s extend that to our lifestyle. Take one small step today—maybe swap that cola for a nimbu pani or walk to the nearby temple. Over time, these habits will pave the way to a healthier, longer life.

So, folks what’s your first step going to be? Let’s commit to living long and strong, together!

Let me know.

Karthik.

13/5/25 9am. 

Home-Cooked vs. Outside Food: A Vegetarian's Dilemma in Malleswaram

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Yesterday, as I walked back from my pedicure, I noticed a new restaurant on Sampige Road, buzzing like a beehive at 3 PM. It’s the tenth such place or so to open within a 3-km radius, each capable of seating a hundred people. With Malleswaram’s ++ population of roughly half a million, even 10% of them dining out means feeding 50,000 mouths! It got me wondering: have we, as a community, abandoned our kitchens en masse for the allure of outside food?

The Rise of Eating Out

The restaurant boom isn’t just a local phenomenon. Urban India is dining out more than ever, driven by busier lifestyles, rising incomes, and the convenience of food delivery apps. In a vegetarian hub like Malleswaram, where dosas, idlis, and thalis are staples, eateries are catering to every taste and budget. But this shift comes with questions—about health, hygiene, cost, and the cultural value of home cooking.

Hygiene and Health Concerns

One of my biggest worries about outside food is hygiene. News of raids by authorities uncovering substandard ingredients or unhygienic kitchens isn’t rare. While some dismiss these as ploys for bribes or free meals, the risks are real. Vegetarian food, unlike non-vegetarian, can be harder to spot when it’s gone bad. Spoiled vegetables or dals can be masked with spices, reheated, and served without raising suspicion. Non-vegetarian food, due to its faster decay, is often discarded or noticed more readily—though both carry risks if mishandled.

Then there’s the oil. Many restaurants, especially budget ones, reuse vegetable oils multiple times, creating harmful compounds linked to heart disease and inflammation. High-quality oils like cold-pressed sesame or groundnut are pricier, and economics often dictate cheaper alternatives like palm or refined oils. At home, I control the oil, its freshness, and how it’s used—something no restaurant can guarantee.

The Cost of Convenience

Eating out isn’t just a health gamble; it’s a financial one. A decent vegetarian meal outside costs ₹150-₹300 per person. For a family of four, that’s ₹600-₹1200 per meal. Cooking at home, even with quality ingredients, is a fraction of that. Over a year, the savings add up—money that could fund a vacation or better groceries. Good food comes at a price, but home cooking lets you prioritize health without breaking the bank.

The Environmental Angle

There’s an environmental cost, too. Restaurants generate more waste—plastic packaging, food scraps, and energy-intensive operations. Home cooking, especially with locally sourced produce, cuts your carbon footprint. Buying from nearby markets or growing herbs at home (I’ve got tulsi and curry leaves on my balcony!) supports local farmers and reduces transport emissions.

The Joy of Home Cooking

Beyond health and savings, there’s an emotional richness to home-cooked food. Four years ago, Lalitha and I committed to cooking all our meals, and I wish I’d started sooner. There’s something meditative about chopping vegetables, stirring a sambar, or rolling chapatis or working the gujarati Kichaadi/Khadi. It’s not just food; it’s love, tradition, and control over what nourishes my body. My grandmother’s recipes, passed down through generations, taste better when I make them myself—no restaurant can replicate that.

The Case for Balance

I’m not saying never eat out. ( Though I avoid, 2025 our visits were just 1 with Children insisting that we eat out, we now avoid going out even on anniversaries) Restaurants are great for socializing, trying new cuisines, or giving yourself a break. A well-chosen eatery with transparent practices can be a treat. But relying on them daily or more frequently risks your health, wallet, and connection to your roots. Moderation is key—maybe reserve dining out for weekends or special occasions.

Conclusion

The restaurant boom in Malleswaram reflects changing times, but it’s worth pausing to weigh the trade-offs. Home-cooked vegetarian food offers unmatched hygiene, health benefits, and savings, plus a chance to preserve our culinary heritage. Next time you’re tempted by that shiny new place on Sampige Road, consider firing up your stove instead. Your body, budget, and soul will thank you.

What’s your take, readers? Do you cook at home, eat out, or balance both? Share your thoughts below!

Karthik

11/5/25 (Mother's day!).

80th Anniversary of WWII End: Reflections on Victory and Lessons for Today......

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My Journal Entry:- ( Personal connection too!!)..... 

Headlines..

Today, May 8, 2025, marks the 80th anniversary of the end of World War II, a day when Nazi Germany surrendered to the Allied forces, bringing an end to one of the darkest chapters in human history. On this day, known as VE Day (Victory in Europe Day), the world breathed a sigh of relief as the brutal conflict that claimed millions of lives came to a close. As I sit down to write this blog, I want to reflect on the heroes, the sacrifices, and the lessons from that time—lessons that still echo loudly in our world today, from Ukraine to the Middle East and even closer to home in India-Pakistan tensions.

The End of the War and Its Global Impact

On May 8, 1945, Nazi forces officially surrendered to the Allies, led by General Dwight D. Eisenhower, the Supreme Commander of the Allied Expeditionary Force. As Allied troops marched into Nazi-occupied territories, the horrifying truth of the Holocaust and other Nazi atrocities came to light—concentration camps, mass executions, and unimaginable suffering. The world was forever changed.

I recently came across a statement by Caroline Leavitt, the White house, press secretary, that resonates deeply: without American intervention, Europe might have been speaking German today. I’d take it a step further—without America’s timely entry into the war, Asia might have been under Japanese control. My grandfather, born in 1900, used to tell me stories of Japanese air raid sirens blaring in Madras (now Chennai) when the Japanese had already taken Burma. The fear was real, and the stakes were high.

But it wasn’t just the Americans. The Soviet Union, despite the brutality of Stalin’s regime, played a massive role in defeating Nazi Germany. The Russians endured unimaginable suffering—millions died on the Eastern Front, from Stalingrad to Leningrad. While I, like many, have little love for the Soviet Union’s oppressive system or the atrocities they committed in occupied Europe, we cannot deny the resilience of the Russian people. Their sacrifice helped turn the tide against Hitler.

Heroes Who Shaped the Victory

On this anniversary, I want to honor the leaders and everyday heroes who made victory possible. These are the people who, through strategy, courage, and sheer determination, changed the course of history. Here’s my take on some of the key figures:

Gen Marshall (L) with President Gen Eisenhower (1952-60). 
1. General Dwight D. Eisenhower and General George C. Marshall

Eisenhower, a Kansas farm boy, nearly lost his leg as a teenager but went on to become the architect of the Allied victory in Europe. As Supreme Commander, he was a master of delegation, trusting his generals to craft plans while he made the final calls. His leadership during D-Day and beyond was pivotal.

General Marshall, the unsung hero of the war, was a man with zero ego. His Marshall Plan rebuilt Europe and Japan, ensuring they didn’t fall to communism. Without Marshall’s vision, the post-war world might look very different. These two men are giants, and the world owes them an immense debt.

Churchill, FDR and Stalin. 

2. Winston Churchill

Churchill is a polarizing figure in India, and for good reason—his policies during the Bengal famine were indefensible. But in the context of WWII, his foresight was unmatched. Early in the war, he saw Hitler’s evil intentions and forged alliances with the Americans and Soviets. His famous quote, slightly paraphrased, captures his wit: “You can always count on the Americans to do the right thing—after they’ve tried everything else.” (The exact quote is, “The Americans will always do the right thing, after they have exhausted all the other possibilities.”) Churchill’s defiance during Britain’s darkest hour, when the Nazis were bombing London, kept hope alive and paved the way for victory.

Truman Holding newspaper which predicted his defeat!!! Press always Fake news even then! 
3. Harry S. Truman

Truman became president after Franklin D. Roosevelt’s death in April 1945, just months before the war’s end. His most significant,(The little quiet man from Kansas) decision was authorizing the atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. While controversial, this brought the war to a swift end, halting Japan’s aggressive march across Asia. The Pacific theater was brutal, with heavy American casualties, and Truman’s decision, however tough, saved countless lives by avoiding a prolonged invasion of Japan. America’s role in rebuilding Japan into a democratic nation is also a testament to its commitment to peace.

4. Major Richard “Dick” Winters

Not all heroes wore stars on their shoulders. Major Dick Winters, of the 101st Airborne’s Easy Company, was a junior officer whose leadership on the ground was extraordinary. From D-Day to the Battle of the Bulge, Winters led his men through impossible odds with courage and humility. If you haven’t watched Band of Brothers (a 10-episode miniseries, not 7 as I initially thought), do yourself a favor and see what true leadership looks like in the heat of battle.

5. Joseph Stalin (A Complex Figure)

I’m adding Stalin to this list, not to glorify him, but to acknowledge the Soviet Union’s role. Stalin was a brutal dictator, and his regime’s atrocities rivaled the Nazis’ in many ways. But the Soviet resistance, driven by the sheer will of its people, was critical. The Red Army’s victories at Stalingrad and Kursk broke the Nazi war machine. Stalin’s strategic partnership with the Allies, however uneasy, was a turning point. We can condemn the man while respecting the sacrifice of millions of Russians.

USS Nimitz supercarrier, the lead ship of her class, is named after him.
6. Admiral Chester W. Nimitz

Another figure worth mentioning is Admiral Chester Nimitz, who led the U.S. Navy in the Pacific. His strategy during battles like Midway and Guadalcanal crippled Japan’s navy, paving the way for Allied dominance. Nimitz’s calm leadership under pressure was vital to winning the Pacific theater.

Peck-Mallory, Niven-> Miller and Quinn-> Andrea. 

Miller (Hanks) and Pvt Ryan (Damon). 
Stories That Keep the War Alive

The stories of WWII live on through books and movies that capture the heroism, tragedy, and resilience of those times. Alistair MacLean’s The Guns of Navarone (Mallory, Miller, Andrea) and Leon Uris’s Exodus dive into the human cost of war and the Jewish struggle. Films like Saving Private Ryan, (Martinez, Miller) The Great Escape, and Schindler’s List bring the stakes to life, showing both the horrors and the hope. These works remind us of the sacrifices made and the lessons we must never forget.

A Personal Connection

This day is personal for me. My grand-uncle, my grandmother’s brother, ran away from home in the late 1930s, a rebel in his own right. He joined the British Army, fought in WWII, and died in Burma in his 20s. My grandmother would get teary-eyed every time she spoke of him. (Seems they got back his army uniform  as with metal buttons as mortal remains, home!!) His loss is a reminder of the countless young men and women who gave their lives for a cause bigger than themselves.

The Lessons for Today

As we mark this 80th anniversary, I can’t help but think about Eisenhower’s farewell address on January 17, 1961 (not 1960, as I mistakenly recalled). He warned of the “military-industrial complex,” a system that profits from war and pushes nations toward conflict. His words ring true today as we see tensions in Ukraine, the Middle East, and even India-Pakistan relations.

War solves nothing. Ukraine shows us that even a smaller nation can hold its own against a giant Russia, but at what cost? The Middle East is a powder keg, and neocons in Washington are pressuring leaders like Donald Trump to escalate conflicts in Iran or Ukraine. Trump, who avoided starting wars in his first term, must resist this temptation now and distance himself, wisely. The greatest tribute to the heroes of WWII would be a commitment to peace.

A Call to Remember

Let’s honor the sacrifices of WWII by working for a world where dialogue, not destruction, prevails. The 80th anniversary of VE Day is a time to reflect on the courage of leaders like Eisenhower, Churchill, and Winters, the resilience of ordinary soldiers like my grand-uncle, and the millions who suffered. But it’s also a time to ask ourselves: how can we prevent history from repeating itself?

As I close this blog, I’m reminded of a line from Band of Brothers: “We weren’t heroes. We were just doing our jobs.” That humility, that sense of duty, is what made the Greatest Generation so great. Let’s carry their legacy forward by choosing peace over war, every chance we get.

What are your thoughts?? 

Karthik.

8/5/25 9am. 

Schooling in India: A Chaotic Mess in Need of Reform.....

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Context: My conversations with Lalitha as well as I stumbled up on few youtube videos on School chaos. (Shared with her) Also Suresh Sadagopan's chapter " Apple of the eye" in his book( If God was your financial planner). 

As a math coach like Lalitha, working with students from Grades 8 to 10 across various boards, you see the cracks in India’s schooling system up close. It’s a mess—chaotic, confusing, and often failing the very students it’s meant to serve. From misaligned curricula to overburdened teachers and naive parents, the system is at a breaking point. Let’s unpack the major issues, including a few you might not have considered, and why our schools, the foundation of nation-building, are churning out widgets instead of well-rounded youngsters.

1. A Curriculum Mess: No Alignment, No Student Focus

India’s education system is a patchwork of boards—CBSE, ICSE, IGCSE, IB, and countless State Boards—each with its own approach to teaching. While diversity sounds nice, the reality is a lack of alignment that confuses students and kills their interest. For instance, CBSE emphasizes rote learning for exams like JEE,(I heard podcast on this with Sabhir Bhatia this morning) while IB focuses on critical thinking but demands heavy project work. State Boards often lag in rigor, leaving students unprepared for national competitions. Lalitha, coaching across these boards, likely sees students struggling to bridge these gaps with no clue on what hits them. The curricula rarely prioritize what kids actually enjoy or need for real-world problem-solving. Instead, they’re designed to churn out exam-ready robots, not curious learners. As I say "With everything in India, it is First World thinking / ambition, and Thrid world Support systems" proven in Education too...! 

2. Hefty Fees, Yet Coaching Is a Must

Parents shell out anywhere from ₹2 lakhs a year for State Board schools to a staggering ₹15 lakhs for IB programs in Grade 10. You’d think that kind of money would buy quality education, right? Wrong. Students are still forced to fork out another couple of lakhs for private coaching in subjects like math or science just to keep up. Why? Schools often fail to deliver deep conceptual understanding, leaving kids reliant on external tutors. It appears that the coverage is not sufficient for the weakest. Worse, when parents question this, schools sometimes retaliate by targeting their kids—subtle grade tweaks or extra scrutiny. It’s a system that punishes inquiry and thrives on dependency. With 99.99999% rating not enough to secure seats in to higher studies, what options do parents have? Sad reality!. 

3. Teachers: Overburdened and Underprepared

Teachers, often hailed as nation-builders, are stuck in a tough spot. Many are qualified on paper but skip crucial aspects of learning in their rush to “complete portions.” Lalitha probably notices this when her students arrive clueless about foundational math concepts. But can we blame teachers? They’re juggling administrative tasks, extracurricular activities, and endless paperwork, leaving little time or energy for actual teaching. Professional development is often a checkbox exercise, not a genuine effort to upskill. The result? Burnt-out educators who can’t inspire or engage, and students who suffer the consequences. Oh yes, only very few teachers are paid a good salary, for the rest it is shockingly low, so where is motivation for them to strive? 

4. The Myth of the “Brand Name” School

Parents, especially those who faced socio-economic hurdles in their own youth, believe a fancy school name or board will set their kids up for life. They’re swayed by glossy brochures, grand campuses, and promises of “holistic development.” But the truth is, a school’s brand doesn’t guarantee maturity, critical thinking, or even academic success. Adding insult to injury is the franchaise model, where a reputed school sells its brand name based on decades of growth, and then all go scot free. The focus on pomp over substance misleads parents into pouring hard-earned money into systems that often prioritize image over education. It’s a blind faith that schools exploit, and kids pay the price with stress and unmet expectations.

5. Government Apathy: Schools Left to Fend for Themselves

The government, as with many issues in India, turns a blind eye. There’s little regulation to ensure schools meet basic standards, let alone innovate. This laissez-faire attitude lets schools—especially private ones—run like businesses, prioritizing profits over learning. From arbitrary fee hikes to cutting corners on teacher training, the lack of oversight creates a free-for-all where quality education takes a backseat. Meanwhile, public schools, especially in rural areas, are often underfunded and understaffed, widening the gap between haves and have-nots.

6. Schools as Widget Factories

Schools are supposed to shape mature, accomplished individuals, but many are turning into factories that produce exam-passing widgets. The obsession with marks and ranks overshadows creativity, emotional growth, and practical skills. Subjects like art, music, or even physical education are often treated as afterthoughts. Life skills—like financial literacy or mental health awareness—are barely touched. If we don’t rethink this approach, we’re setting up a generation that’s book-smart but ill-equipped for life’s challenges.

7. The 2-5% Success Myth

Sure, 2-5% of students shine—cracking IIT-JEE, NEET, or landing abroad for higher studies. But is that the school’s doing? More often, it’s the student’s personal ecosystem: supportive parents, access to top-tier coaching, or sheer grit. Schools love to claim credit, but they’re often just bystanders. For the other 95%, the system offers little beyond stress and a piece of paper called a degree. It takes them nowhere.

8. Mental Health: The Ignored Crisis

One issue that’s often swept under the rug is student mental health. The pressure to perform in a hyper-competitive system—coupled with very high parental expectations (Norm in 2025, makes me wonder!) and social media comparisons—takes a toll. Schools rarely have trained counselors, and when they do, they’re overstretched. Students facing anxiety or depression are told to “tough it out” rather than given real support. Lalitha might see this in her students: kids who are bright but crumbling under pressure. This isn’t just a side issue—it’s a crisis that’s breaking our youth.

9. Technology: A Missed Opportunity

While the world races toward AI and digital learning, many Indian schools are stuck in the Stone Age. Smartboards, when they exist, are often for show. Online learning tools are underutilized, and coding or tech skills are barely taught outside elite institutions. In a country that prides itself on IT prowess, this is a shameful oversight. Schools could use tech to personalize learning or make subjects like math more engaging, but instead, they cling to outdated methods.

6 /10 top schools are from China, shows mirror.. Yes only consolation, US /UK Schools same horror show. (May be worse than India!).... 

10. Where Indian Schools Stand Globally and How to Move the Needle

Globally, India’s school education system lags significantly, with no Indian schools ranking among the top 200 in international benchmarks like the Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA). In 2009, when Tamil Nadu and Himachal Pradesh participated in PISA, they ranked second to last among 74 regions, with only 45% of eighth-graders able to read simple English sentences or perform basic math. India’s focus on rote learning, high student-teacher ratios (often 28:1 in primary schools), and underfunded infrastructure (2.9% of GDP vs. global leaders like Finland’s 6.9%) keep it behind countries like Singapore, Finland, or Estonia, which prioritize critical thinking, teacher training, and digital integration. To move the needle, Indian schools must act decisively: adopt project-based learning to foster creativity, invest in rigorous teacher training (like Finland’s master’s-level programs), integrate technology meaningfully (e.g., Estonia’s digital classrooms), and engage communities via parent-teacher associations, as Brazil does, to tailor education to local needs. Reducing exam-centric stress and aligning curricula across boards to emphasize skills over marks can also help. Schools, not just the government, must take ownership—innovate, collaborate, and prioritize student well-being to compete globally.

A Call to Action

India’s schooling system is at a crossroads. Without serious reform—aligned curricula, better teacher support, government accountability, and a focus on holistic growth—we’re failing our kids. Parents need to demand transparency, not just chase brand names. Schools must prioritize learning over profits. And the government? It’s time to step up and regulate, fund, and innovate.

As Lalitha sees every day, the potential in our students is immense. But potential alone isn’t enough—it needs a system that nurtures, not stifles. Let’s stop producing widgets and start building a generation of thinkers, creators, and leaders. The future of our nation depends on it.

What are your thoughts? What can be done to change course? 

Karthik.

5/5/25.

PS: I was to write about 80 years completion of II WW, today thinking today is 80th Anniversary. I checked and found it is 8th May, so this post on Indian education is impromptu. 

Why India Struggles with Predictability: A Deep Dive into Chaos as the Default..

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Note to myself from my Journal Entry:- 

(Prompted by Anand Driving 200 Km in 2 hrs- to begin weekend every Thursday)

Karthik, your frustration with the lack of predictability, stability, and reliability in India resonates deeply, especially when contrasted with the precision you’ve observed elsewhere—like your brother Anand’s clockwork commute in Oman or the pinpoint accuracy of space missions. The “expect the unexpected” mindset, the last-minute rush, and the constant derailment of plans despite meticulous preparation are indeed pervasive across India. This post, explores why this is the default state more than 50% of the time, delving into historical, cultural, systemic, and societal causes, and proposing potential solutions.

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The Curse of Unpredictability: A Personal Reflection

I’ve always been a planner, someone who thrives on structure and foresight. Yet, in India, my carefully laid plans—be it for a family event, a work meeting, or even a simple commute—often unravel. Deadlines shift, resources vanish, and coordination feels like herding cats. It’s maddening. Contrast this with my brother Anand, who drives 200 km between Sohar and Muscat in exactly two hours, every single time, for past 17 years, with the precision of a Swiss watch. Or consider space missions, where rockets travel millions of kilometers and arrive at their destination to the exact second. Meanwhile, in India, even the grandest events, like festivals or corporate launches, are marked by a frantic last-minute scramble. Why is this chaos our default? Why can’t we emulate the London Olympics, where arrangements were ready a year in advance, while in India, we’re lucky if things come together 365 minutes early? I witness travel without planning, meetings without agenda, visits works on adhoc pulling people like chicken for slaughter, why can't we plan for 10% of time and execute with 90% even as bare minimum? Never seems to happen. 

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Why Is India So Unpredictable? Root Causes

1. Historical and Cultural Context

India’s history of improvisation, or jugaad, has shaped its approach to problem-solving. Born out of necessity in a resource-scarce, colonial past, jugaad prioritizes quick fixes over long-term planning. While this ingenuity is a strength, it often leads to a reactive rather than proactive mindset. Culturally, a relaxed attitude toward time—sometimes called “Indian Standard (Strechable) Time” IST,—normalizes delays. Unlike societies with rigid, clock-driven cultures (e.g., Japan or Germany), India’s social fabric often values relationships and flexibility over punctuality.

2. Systemic Inefficiencies

India’s infrastructure and governance systems are stretched thin. Overpopulation, bureaucratic red tape, and underfunded public services create bottlenecks. For example:

• Transportation: Overloaded roads, unpredictable traffic, and inconsistent public transport make commuting a gamble, unlike Anand’s predictable drives in Oman.

• Resource Allocation: Poor coordination between departments leads to misaligned priorities, with resources often diverted at the last minute.

• Policy Implementation: Even well-intentioned plans, like urban development projects, get stalled due to corruption, political interference, or lack of accountability.

3. Societal Attitudes

Indian society often prioritizes immediate needs over long-term goals. This manifests in:

• Last-Minute Culture: From students cramming for exams to companies rushing project deadlines, the tendency to procrastinate is widespread. This stems from a belief that “things will work out” (ho jayega), which, while optimistic, undermines planning. Also, everybody wants to be a rule breaker, rules are for others and enage in activities of their own which hinders those who have plans and try to execute. 

• Low Value on Time: Time is rarely seen as a finite resource. Meetings start late, events drag on, and deadlines are treated as suggestions. I have sat through a meeting scheduled for 1 hr stretching up to 3 hrs. (Luckily I quit the organisation in weeks- Not my style). 

• Risk Aversion: Fear of failure discourages early action. People delay decisions until the last moment to avoid committing to potentially flawed plans.

4. Overload and Complexity

India’s sheer scale—1.4 billion people, diverse cultures, and competing priorities—creates a chaotic environment. Coordinating large-scale events or projects is exponentially harder than in smaller, more homogenous nations. The London Olympics, for instance, benefited from a centralized authority and a smaller population, while India’s events often involve multiple stakeholders with conflicting agendas.

5. Lack of Accountability

There’s little consequence for delays or failures in India. If a contractor misses a deadline or a government project runs over budget, accountability is diluted across layers of bureaucracy. Compare this to space missions, where precision is non-negotiable, and teams are held to exacting standards. I was told the 2023 Cricket world cup planning was a mess, with nothing got ready with just days left and then it was mad scramble! No wonder, everybody feels cheated/ let down post event. 

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Global Contrast: Why Doesn’t This Happen Elsewhere?

Your global travels highlight that this unpredictability is uniquely pronounced in India. In countries like Japan, Germany, or even Oman, systems are designed for reliability:

• Infrastructure: Well-maintained roads, efficient public transport, and robust supply chains minimize disruptions.

• Cultural Norms: Punctuality and planning are ingrained. In Japan, trains apologize for being a minute late.

• Accountability: Clear consequences for delays ensure discipline. For example, the London Olympics’ early readiness was driven by strict oversight and penalties for non-compliance.

• Simpler Systems: Smaller populations and streamlined governance make coordination easier.

India, by contrast, juggles a far more complex reality, where systemic gaps amplify cultural tendencies toward flexibility and improvisation.

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The Toll of Unpredictability

This lack of predictability takes a toll:

• Mental Stress: Planners like you, are left frustrated, constantly adjusting to unforeseen hiccups. While it doesn't affect mental health, the irksome feeling is genuine for a short time. 

• Economic Costs: Delays in projects, from infrastructure to corporate deliverables, cost India billions annually. For instance, a 2020 report estimated that delays in infrastructure projects alone cost India $100 billion yearly.

• Reputation: India’s global image suffers when events or projects miss deadlines, reinforcing stereotypes of inefficiency.

• Missed Opportunities: The last-minute rush often compromises quality, whether it’s a corporate pitch or a public festival.

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Solutions: Can India Break the Curse?

While deeply entrenched, this unpredictability isn’t insurmountable. Here are solutions across different levels:

1. Individual and Community Level

• Value Time: Shift cultural attitudes by emphasizing punctuality and planning. Campaigns like “Be On Time” could normalize treating time as a resource.

• Lead by Example: Individuals like you, can model reliability in personal and professional spheres, inspiring others. 

• Community Accountability: Local groups—resident associations, professional networks—can set standards for timeliness and hold members accountable. Spread the word! (Would people take it seriously, I doubt?)

2. Organizational Level

• Better Planning Tools: Companies should adopt project management software to track progress and flag delays early.

• Incentives for Punctuality: Reward teams or contractors who meet deadlines, while penalizing chronic delays.

• Training: Invest in time management (Again a myth, but I will write on this later) and coordination skills for employees, addressing the root cause of last-minute rushes.

3. Government and Systemic Level

• Infrastructure Investment: Improve roads, public transport, and digital connectivity to reduce external disruptions.

• Streamlined Governance: Simplify bureaucratic processes and enforce accountability through transparent tracking of project milestones.

• Public Awareness Campaigns: Government-led initiatives, like those for cleanliness (Swachh Bharat), could promote a culture of reliability and planning.

• Learn from Successes: Emulate ISRO’s precision in space missions by applying similar rigor to public projects. ISRO’s success shows India can achieve predictability when systems are aligned.

4. Education and Long-Term Change

• Teach Time Management: Introduce planning and organizational skills in schools to build a generation that values structure.

• Celebrate Success Stories: Highlight examples like ISRO or individuals who value and execute puncutality/ reliability, to inspire a cultural shift toward reliability.

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A Vision for a Predictable India

Imagine an India where trains run on time, events start as scheduled, and projects are completed ahead of deadlines. It’s not a pipe dream—ISRO’s space missions and individuals like Anand prove it’s possible. The challenge is scaling this precision to a billion-plus population. It requires a collective shift: valuing time, investing in systems, and holding ourselves accountable. Until then, planners like me will continue to marvel at the chaos, grit our teeth, and—ironically—plan for the unexpected and still something will go off the rails.

Do I see some shift in this in my lifetime? I don't think so!!! 

What do you think? 

Karthik.

3/5/25. 9am.

What Stays the Same and What Changes: Life at 16 vs. 61

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Karaikudi 1981. (with cousin who is also settled in Bangalore). 

Today, as I complete 45 years, since I began my post schooling journey in 1980, (1/5/80) I find myself reflecting on life then and now, in 2025. At 16, (1980)I was a teenager full of dreams, navigating a simpler India with handwritten notes and landline phones. At 61, (2025) I stand wiser, shaped by decades of experiences, from black-and-white TVs, local friends to AI-driven smartphones and global network over 40 countries. This post, explores what remains true from 16 to 61 and what changes as life unfolds, inspired by my journey.

What Stays the Same: Timeless Truths

Some lessons are eternal, guiding us through life’s highs and lows, as true in 1980 as they are in 2025.

1. Adapt and Create Your Path
   Life demands adaptability. At 16, you adjust to new friends or tough teachers. At 61, you tackle career shifts or family changes. You must carve your own path, whether moving to a new city for a job or rebuilding after a setback. For me, leaving the comfort of home for better career prospects, 1000 miles away, was a bold move that paid off. Acquiring the right credentials as I evolved, launched my career, while failures—like a bad boss or my wife’s miscarriage—brought out my resilience and strength and push frontiers. Yes, at 16 and 61, Friends/ great colleagues matter, they are your Vitamins. 

2. Don’t Brood, Move On
   If something troubles you, don’t waste time sulking. At 16, you might dislike a subject—move on. At 61, it could be a job loss or a fight—act, change, or let go. Brooding solves nothing; action does. You create your path and destiny. End of story. 

3. Parents Are Your First Mentors
   At 16, you might ignore your parents’ advice, thinking you know better. By 61, you miss their wisdom and unconditional love. They are your first leaders, shaping your values, even if you realize it later. Amazing I hear this same thought from 100s of leaders in their lectures and podcasts, 45 years on. 

4. Success Isn’t About Degrees
   Marks and degrees matter, but they don’t define success. In 1980, I chased opportunities, not just grades, knowing I could seize the moment as it came. In 2025, it’s about ideas—starting a small business or solving problems. Success lies in maintaining integrity and radical candor, thinking clearly, and acting boldly.

5. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
   Life throws curveballs—failing an exam at 16 or a plan falling apart at 61. Don’t dwell on mistakes. I scored 8/100 in a subject once, and it didn’t break me. Years later, I quit a job in 10 minutes flat—didn’t lose sleep over it. Laugh, learn, and work on the next plan.

6. Family First, But Be Resilient
   Family is your anchor, at 16 or 61. But storms—loss, fights, or distance—can strike. Learn to stand alone when needed. Being self-reliant, like an island, helps you face life’s toughest moments. I recollect my lonely moments of I, me, myself, for good 18 months (twice) before being 25. That muscle memory will help me as I face life in coming days. 

What’s Different: Lessons You Learn by 61

At 16, life feels like a grand adventure. By 61, you see its complexity, and some truths only time reveals. Here’s what changes.

1. Flexibility Over Rigidity
   At 16, you’re stubborn, clinging to your beliefs. By 61, you learn to bend. Opinions flow like water, shifting with new experiences. Staying rigid—in politics or personal views—blocks growth.

2. A Complete Life Needs Balance
   At 16, you think money and family are everything. At 61, you realize health, fitness, hobbies, community, and helping others are just as vital. A fulfilling life blends wellness, creativity, and service, not just a bank balance.

3. Marriage: Love and Partnership
   At 16, love feels like a romance movie with all going good. At 61, you value a wife who loves and supports you over chasing a dream partner. In India, trusting elders to guide your choice often works—marriage is a lottery, and their wisdom simplifies the odds.

4. Marriage Deepens Beyond the Obvious
   Young love is about romance and kids. By 61, marriage becomes companionship, built on shared struggles and quiet moments. The real bond grows stronger as you age, far beyond physical attraction. As my cousin said,"Real Marriage starts when you hit 60"

5. Success Is a Slow Grind
   At 16, you dream of overnight fame. At 61, you know success is a marathon—small steps, failures, and retries. Your thoughts and beliefs shape your path, but it’s persistent effort that wins.

6. Motivation Comes from Within
   At 16, you crave approval from friends or teachers. At 61, you seek autonomy (freedom to choose), mastery (improving at something), and purpose (doing meaningful work). Being valued for who you are is life’s greatest reward. 

7. Travel Humbles You
   At 16, your world is small—your town, your people. By 61, global travel and meeting diverse cultures crush your ego. Seeing the world’s vastness grounds you, teaching humility.

Regrets and Reflections

Regrets? None whatsoever! I once cribbed to my dad about not moving from Karaikudi to a bigger city, but that was just a childish wish. Looking back, I’m content with how life unfolded.

A passing thought: (What-If) I sometimes wonder if Lalitha, was my high school sweetheart,& could’ve been later my wife. But at 13, I’d have probably overlooked her as “just another face in the crowd”! I always believed in “marry and love,” so it’s just a playful what-if, not a regret.

2025 

Conclusions: Bridging 1980 and 2025

From 1980 to 2025, the world has transformed. At 16, besides studies for a pass, (Not for top spot etc.)  life was about chasing printed books from libraries, local dreams, and cricket,and landline calls in a pre-liberalization India. Today, it’s smartphones, global jobs, Inter continental travel like backyard visit, iBooks, and AI (Cricket long dead inside me). Yet, some truths endure—adapting, resilience, and family remain the backbone of a good life. What changes is perspective: flexibility, balance, and meaningful relationships grow clearer with time.

My 45-year journey since ending school began teaches this: embrace change but hold on to timeless values. At 16 or 61, life rewards those who act, learn, run, and stay grounded. Success isn’t a sprint; it’s a marathon with endurance and pain the end game of joy. While the world shifts from typewriters to touchscreens, the heart of life—love, purpose, and resilience—stays the same.

What are your thoughts? What remained same/What changed for you?
Karthik.

1/5/24. 

915am.